So that isn’t strictly true, we have an 18 month old daughter but seriously if this isn’t the ‘terrible 2’s’ starting early she has definitely become a teenager in the last few weeks.
There’s a few moments at the beginning of having a baby that you look forward to, like when your little one starts to smile, when they start crawling, when they start to interact, when they start to talk. Then it actually happens!
The smiling is cute right? Then comes the crawling, not too fast and fairly unsteady so that’s ok. Then there is the interaction, this means that you can sort of start to understand what they want and how to look after them. But, then comes the walking, talking, ‘i can now say no!’ stage.
It’s cute at first, the unsteady waddling and saying ‘ello’ but then comes the running and ‘no’. Now don’t get me wrong it’s still cute, but man is it frustrating. I mean really?! Is there any reason why no is the answer to every single question we ask? Do you want a drink – No, do you want to walk – No, do you want to go to bed – Yeah…….No, is the sky blue – No! You get the picture?
When our daughter was born people would often comment about how difficult a girl would be, I’m not sure any more difficult than the 18 month old boys we know at the moment but I can definitely see we are going to have attitude in the future. Having said that we’ve got attitude right now!
Then there are the tantrums, and we sure have had our fair share of tantrums already (I can really relate to the sets of pictures you see titled ‘why my child is crying’) However, we must be lucky parents because at the moment most the tantrums consist of ‘No’, followed by a stomp away from the situation (whilst looking back and checking that we’re still interested) then the drop to the floor in the most careful delicate way you could imagine, lastly followed by ‘Oh’! Then we’re over it and have moved onto the next thing.
But with the attitude also comes the frustration, with the frustration comes the lashing out and with that comes those moments when you say to yourself ‘what am I doing? I really can’t do this parenting thing!’ It raises so many parenting questions and discussions on how we are going to deal / cope / manage the behaviour and attitude. There are times when you just want the right answer to fall out of the sky.
It’s hard to put it all into perspective when it feels like it’s all of a sudden a constant battle, but in reality I know that this only really accounts for about 10% of our days. 90% of the day is a lot of fun with lots of new learning, exploring, giggles and games, so why is it that it’s so easy to get frustrated and that’s all you remember? I’m also aware that when I get home from work my wife has not had fun all day and it’s not an easy life being at home with our daughter!
Here’s to tantrums, tears and teenage years and everything in between!